A wedding should be the best day of your life, but with all the pressure to get it just right, many brides end up feeling overwhelmed. Fortunately, there’s no need to take all of the pressure upon yourself. Here are some tips for reducing your stress and making your wedding preparations as pain-free as your big day.
Try to keep it organised
Not everything has to be organised to the minute, but if you find yourself not knowing what to do first, it can help to make a schedule. Plan out roughly when things should be organised, and remember to leave some room for a contingency! This will ensure you know what should be happening when while not meaning you need to stress every time something doesn’t happen exactly when it’s supposed to.
Book in meetings and wedding rehearsals as soon as possible, and make sure you get your venue early on in your planning so you know that’s sorted and which date to settle for. Make sure everyone else knows where they’re supposed to be, as well. If possible, it’s worth booking in rehearsals, as well: particularly for performance-based parts such as music, your dance, or the ceremony itself. This will ensure that everything runs smoothly when it comes to the big event. Those around you will thank you, as well, as they’ll know what they’re supposed to be doing and feel far less lost then they might have otherwise.
Make sure you delegate
You have bridesmaids for a reason! It’s important to make sure that you’re not taking everything upon yourself. At the very least, organising the hen party shouldn’t be your responsibility! Since your bridesmaids should be your friends, they’ll be more than willing to help you if you really need it. Although this is usually seen as being on the day, they should be willing to help beforehand, as well. Asking them to do small errands like pick up deliveries, offer opinions on choices, or even just offer emotional support is fine to do. It can make your big day a lot less stressful when you know you’ve got a team of people on your side.
Remember why you’re doing it
There’s a reason you agreed to get married: because you wanted to spend the rest of your life with the one you love. Sometimes it can help to be reminded of that amongst the stress of the big day. Remember to check in with your partner and reaffirm how you’re feeling: it should be an event you’re excited about, and sometimes reminding yourself why you’re doing it all is enough to take the stress away. Of course, it’s a team effort: you should make sure that you and your partner are sharing the workload and making decisions together, and communicating is the most important way to ensure everything is running as it should be. Keep the love at the heart of it all and everything should be fine.
Accept that things will go wrong
Inevitably, no day will ever be perfect. There will always be some kind of stress, whether it be with preparations, guests, or even your own nerves. The most important thing to remember is that this doesn’t mean your day can’t be, in your eyes, ideal. Accept that things are sometimes out of your control – it might rain, but you can’t control the weather! – and make the most of them whatever happens. Fortunately, you’ll probably be so swept up in love that the tiny things won’t matter: and that’s exactly how you have the wedding of your dreams.