Let’s be real, for the vast majority of us, the art of romance is not so easy. In fact, regardless of how introverted or extroverted we are, we just can’t seem to do well in our love lives.
As the old ways have become clichés and grand gestures are deemed as “cheesy”, dating might seem like a tough scene.
But even as the day and age have changed, there are certain timeless tips to remember when you go on a date. These can initiate your date’s interest in you further and help you win, once and for all.
Check out these tips that may turn the tables on your next date!
1. Confidence is Key
First dates are generally awkward for both people, unless someone breaks the ice. People are generally attracted to those who are assertive and know what they want, so don’t shy away from the conversation.
Don’t be nervous when going on the date. Remember, if you’re the one who doesn’t talk much on a date, you might risk the dating being unmemorable and completely awkward.
2. The Art of Conversation
The perfect conversation is striking the balance between listening and speaking. Though there are certain guidelines of the topics you should and shouldn’t bring to the table on your date, the way you speak should also be taken under consideration.
As previously mentioned, you should exude confidence. Furthermore, being witty, intelligent, yet light and humorous might serve you well.
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3. Being a Listener
While you shouldn’t shy away from the conversation, don’t hog the spotlight. Though people like those who are easy to get along with and aren’t afraid to talk, it’s a bit off-putting if you go on and on about yourself and don’t give your date the chance to talk.
Being a listener is more than just letting them speak. You should pay attention to the little details and also keep asking questions so that your date knows that you’re interested.
Being a good listener is crucial if you’re interested in the person as it can strengthen your relationship.
4. Dress to Impress
What you wear and how you present yourself is a huge part of the first impression you make. Dressing up doesn’t necessarily mean going the whole nine yards. Rather, it means putting in the effort.
Put some thought into your outfit and choose it according to the venue. Take care of your personal hygiene and groom yourself. Iron your clothes and don’t forget to wear your favorite watch.
Though the first impression factor may not be as daunting as a business meeting, it’s still important. If you arrived with unkempt hair and clothes in disarray then your date might think you’re not interested at all.
5. Put Your Phone Away
A problem with the modern dating scene is a person’s inability to keep their phones away for a night. It’s understandable if you’re a busy person but it might make your date uncomfortable and feel as though you’re not interested in them.
Excessive texting, taking, and receiving calls on your date can also prevent you from having a good time. So, disconnect with everyone else and connect with the person in front of you.
6. Go with the Right Mindset
If you go into a date determined that you’ll come out with a partner right away, it might interfere with developing a genuine connection and it might also make you look a bit desperate.
Next time you go on a date, go with the intention of coming out of there with a friend and you’ll immediately be able to feel the spark between one another.
Even if the date doesn’t turn out the way you expected, the evening won’t be an entire waste either if you enjoyed the night and your company.
7. Conversation Guidelines
As we’ve already said, you should go on a date with the intention of having a good time. However, if you bring up controversial or heavy topics, there’s a good chance your evening might not end well.
Controversial topics such as politics should be set aside for when the relationship advances. However, for dates, it can create arguments that may ruin your evening. The same goes for heavy topics such as the details of your own or your date’s past.
An alternative for heavy and problematic questions is just chatting about each other’s passions. It’s easy to talk about and both of you will have fun. It’s also a great way to learn more about your date.
8. Make Your Intentions Clear
Instead of giving mixed signals, tell your date what you want directly. If you feel like the date is going somewhere good, communicate clearly and ask if they’re up for a second date.
On the other hand, if you’re not interested in pursuing the relationship, don’t beat around the bush. Giving mixed signals could lead you to a string of misunderstandings and unwanted situations.
9. Understand Cues
It’s as important to listen as it is to communicate. You should be accepting and understand if your date doesn’t wish to continue dating you, even if you were interested in pursuing the relationship. Trying to pursue them afterwards might even make them uncomfortable.
A lot of people assume their dates might play “hard to get” which is also why games should not interfere with communication. All in all, respect your date’s decision even if it misaligns with your own.
Dating, though very common, can still be very tough for a lot of people. If you’re one of them, it’s important to keep your intentions and expectations clear and try not to force romance in the date.
Regardless of its outcome, keeping these tips in mind will help you create a memorable evening for both you and your date.