Many people yearn for the intimacy and companionship of a long-term relationship.

That comfortable stage where you know your partner better than anyone in the world. But, for many, this stage is also accompanied by a dousing of the initial spark of excitement that you had when you saw your partner.

Luckily, this is a normal part of your relationship, and it doesn’t mean that you don’t love your partner anymore, so don’t worry! Even better than that, there are some ways to rekindle that initial passion.

Have More Sex

Yes, as obvious as it sounds, having sex more regularly can help to add a spark back to your relationship. Of course, if there are physical reasons or emotional ones as to why this may be difficult, then it may be worth skipping this step if possible.

But many couples fall into a relationship where one partner is yearning for sex, and the other cannot be bothered, leading to frustration. The reality is that the more you have sex with your partner, the more you will want it. Why not ramp up the excitement by adding some sex toys to your bedroom activities? There are many suitable toys on that can add a bit of spice!

Regular Date Nights

Much as before, many couples who have been together for a long time fall into the daily routines. This, while important, can once again kill the excitement in a relationship.

So, aim to have a date night as often as you can. It doesn’t have to be a trip to a lavish restaurant, but having something to dress up for can make you feel more desirable, which leads back to the butterflies and spark that you once had. A date night also gives you time to unwind from the pressures of the world and focus on each other.

Dress Up

This goes back to putting the spark back into the bedroom, but if your partner is a fan of role-playing or you want to try something new, why not get an outfit for the bedroom?

This doesn’t have to be made of PVC or leather (unless that’s the aim), but even wearing a new ensemble can help add a bit of excitement to your sex life. And, of course, afterward, you can both talk about which bits you enjoyed and whether it is worth trying again.

Spend Time Apart

If you live with your partner, you will know all there is to know about them. Meaning that they can become predictable.

So, aim to spend some time apart. Make plans with your friends, try something new by yourself and go out for walks by yourself. Absence does make the heart grow fonder, so spend a bit more time doing stuff by yourself.

Adrenaline Rushes Are Fun Too

There is something about going on a rollercoaster with your partner that adds some excitement. In an evolutionary sense, it is because you are going through an adrenaline rush and the fear that comes with it together. That can help to add a bit of fun and give you some interesting memories to talk about too!


Northern girl Laura is the epitome of a true entrepreneur. Laura’s spirit for adventure and passion for people blaze through House of Coco. She founded House of Coco in 2014 and has grown it in to an internationally recognised brand whilst having a lot of fun along the way. Travel is in her DNA and she is a true visionary and a global citizen.

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